“I Know I’m Right!”   2 comments

The intensity of my feeling does not prove the truth of my viewpoint. It says more about me than the reality around me.  But even should I look more closely into my own heart, I may still misunderstand my emotions. If the culture and family in which we are raised do not train us to accept and understand our feelings, if they in fact encourage us to ignore and misread them, then we have a long, tortuous, and dimly lit path ahead of us as we seek to understand ourselves. Don’t give up. That search yields some of life’s richest treasures in yourself and in your relationships.

Strong feelings seem to legitimate our positions in our own minds, and if we link those to our spiritual beliefs, we end up assuming that God feels the same way we do. But the intensity of our feelings is more likely to signal a personal issue than a theological one, even in cases where our moral judgment is accurate. If those strong feelings push us to speak or act without adequate personal reflection, we can make things worse in our unbalanced response, and those who recognize our emotional entanglement will either be dismissive or reactive.

When I feel much more strongly about a matter than others do, it makes me stop and consider why and invites me to draw conclusions about myself rather than others. Differences and conflicts always call us deeper into our own hearts, and if we begin with that discovery, we are more likely to also understand others more fully.

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Posted January 11, 2015 by janathangrace in thoughts

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2 responses to ““I Know I’m Right!”

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  1. It is a gift to listen and see another’s perspective, to humble myself, rather than insist that I am right. God help me in my pursuit of being true while not burning bridges.

    • Thanks for reading and commenting. It seems to me there are always multiple truths regarding any context, and unfortunately I often choose to focus on the less important truth. The most important truth in any context is love, and this is often (though not always) best expressed by listening and understanding the other, whether or not we agree with their position. The message “You are more important to me than this disagreement” is often the most vital truth to convey.

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